Get Off the Glass
Several years ago I was visiting with a high school classmate on the phone who was kind of a colorful character. Pam and I had been married for years, and Connie, my classmate, was still single at that time. She shared a humorous word picture that caught in my memory: “Marriage is like flies on a window pane—those on the outside wanting to get in and those on the inside wanting to get out.” I don’t know who came up with this rather cynical statement but I’m afraid whoever did was reflecting some truth. I hope many of you are happily married or happily single, but there is an unfortunate state of discontent prevalent in the human condition. The idealistic expectations of romance stirred up on Valentine’s Day could serve to accentuate discontent. Awareness can help you guard against this.
If you are single, enjoy your freedom. You can do what you want without the need to coordinate or think of someone else’s needs. You may long to be married, and if that is the case, I pray that you will be. Until then, enjoy your current state and use it to serve the Lord.
If you are married, enjoy your companion. You have someone to share life with and someone to care for. The person you married is not the person someone else married and so your marriage is not going to be someone else’s marriage. Avoid the trap of comparing what you see and know of other’s marriages with what you see and know of your own. Comparing is unwise to begin with but comparing with what you imagine other marriages to be like is particularly foolish, as is comparing with the imaginary couples on commercials, in movies, or in novels.
If you are single, thank God. If you are married, thank God. Pray to God to help you grow and serve in the condition you find yourself in. If your marriage is having difficulties, seek counsel. Discontented married couples that give up on their marriage too often result in discontented singles; singles who can find no contentment within themselves are likely to be discontented when they marry. One inescapable reality in life is you: wherever you go, YOU are still there.
Finally, I hate flies in my house. I learned it from my Grandma Lippert. I aim to kill them. No fly is easier to kill than a fly committed to the window pane. We have an enemy who is out to kill us. Discontent makes us easy prey for him. Don’t be a fly on the window in life, unhappily waiting to be in or out of marriage. Get off the glass. Choose to have a Happy Valentine’s Day.